I chanced upon the following report on the net: A producer and reporter for a Seattle radio station, Dan, never thought of himself as attractive. When his marriage failed eight years ago, Dan’s self-esteem plunged. After years of shunning love, he fell for Ann, a new co-worker. But for Ann the feeling wasn’t mutual. Dan decided to go for a makeover. He had a chin implant, facial reshaping and liposuction on his face, chest, back and love handles done. To complete his look, Dan received a hair weave, dental veneers, teeth whitening, LASIK surgery and a hot new wardrobe! “Inside me, I am going to be more confident. This is going to make me more attractive person to everyone!”
Imagine, a man going through all those operations, braving the pain, the bedpan and that utterly horrendous hospital gown, and the shock of looking in the mirror and finding a new face staring back at him –all for a woman! At 18 I might have thought, “Dan is cho-chweet and romantic.” But now, I am thinking, “Hugh, what’s with that man, he needs a brain implant.”
As you grow older you begin to see beauty in unconventional forms. You like a man, not for his looks, but because there is “something more” to him. You like him because he knows how to treat you; how to make you feel like you are the most wonderful person on this earth (you know and he knows that it is not true, but who cares); you like him because the extra few pounds you carry around your waist doesn't bother him, he actually likes it! You like him because he doesn't scream and thump his chest to establish his authority; he is not a walking talking advertisement for self; you like him because he is oh, so confident and comfortable in his own skin.
Imagine, a man going through all those operations, braving the pain, the bedpan and that utterly horrendous hospital gown, and the shock of looking in the mirror and finding a new face staring back at him –all for a woman! At 18 I might have thought, “Dan is cho-chweet and romantic.” But now, I am thinking, “Hugh, what’s with that man, he needs a brain implant.”
As you grow older you begin to see beauty in unconventional forms. You like a man, not for his looks, but because there is “something more” to him. You like him because he knows how to treat you; how to make you feel like you are the most wonderful person on this earth (you know and he knows that it is not true, but who cares); you like him because the extra few pounds you carry around your waist doesn't bother him, he actually likes it! You like him because he doesn't scream and thump his chest to establish his authority; he is not a walking talking advertisement for self; you like him because he is oh, so confident and comfortable in his own skin.
When a man is confident in his own skin, oh boy, does he have a surefire winner in his hands or what? Otherwise how would you explain the phenomenal sources of an actor like Mohanlal . He’s been a successful star for more than 25 years –with the same face and same body (which has now expanded so much you might have to address it in the plural form). Lets be honest. Mohanlal is not what you would call handsome. If he had to follow in the footsteps of Dan, he would have had to have liposuction done all over him –beginning with his cheeks. But then he wouldn’t be Mohanlal and I wouldn’t be his greatest fan. For more than two decades he has been collecting fans like grains of sand on the beach, with his phenomenal talent. He is so comfortable in his own skin that you see nothing but the beauty in the man. That is the power of being your own self and liking it.
I believe firmly that the world’s greatest charmers are all men and women not with beautiful faces and bodies but an attractive spirit that radiates confidence. Growing up is difficult, especially when you don’t have the perfect nose, eyes, body and height. I remember reading somewhere that bald men and short men were considered to be the sexiest and charming men in the world. My very bald and short friend offered to explain the phenomenon: “Once you accept that you are bald and short and that you cannot reverse the situation, unless you want to go through hair weaving and look like Salman khan in a horror movie, things become easy. Then you project your bald head and lack of height as an asset. In other words, you project your imperfections with confidence till it turns out to be your signature style. Also, when you realize that you cannot attract girls with a head full of your own hair, you begin to look for other avenues –you learn to attract with your conversation sills, you learn to treat women well and respect them. You learn to treat them like a princess, the way they deserve to be treated. Before you know the women begin to see you for what you are and not just a hairless and short man.”
We just need to accept who we are and work on it to become what we want to be. It’s a lot simpler and easier to be just you. And moreover, at the end of the day what am I to do with a beautiful looking man. After some time it gets boring. But on the other hand, if I have a man who makes me feel like a princess…ah, now that’s another thing altogether!
I believe firmly that the world’s greatest charmers are all men and women not with beautiful faces and bodies but an attractive spirit that radiates confidence. Growing up is difficult, especially when you don’t have the perfect nose, eyes, body and height. I remember reading somewhere that bald men and short men were considered to be the sexiest and charming men in the world. My very bald and short friend offered to explain the phenomenon: “Once you accept that you are bald and short and that you cannot reverse the situation, unless you want to go through hair weaving and look like Salman khan in a horror movie, things become easy. Then you project your bald head and lack of height as an asset. In other words, you project your imperfections with confidence till it turns out to be your signature style. Also, when you realize that you cannot attract girls with a head full of your own hair, you begin to look for other avenues –you learn to attract with your conversation sills, you learn to treat women well and respect them. You learn to treat them like a princess, the way they deserve to be treated. Before you know the women begin to see you for what you are and not just a hairless and short man.”
We just need to accept who we are and work on it to become what we want to be. It’s a lot simpler and easier to be just you. And moreover, at the end of the day what am I to do with a beautiful looking man. After some time it gets boring. But on the other hand, if I have a man who makes me feel like a princess…ah, now that’s another thing altogether!
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